I once read in my mentor’s blog that relationships were like bridges. He wrote that in our lives, we create multiple bridges of different varieties: straw bridges, bamboo bridges, rope bridges, cement bridges, steel bridges, etc. The better the material, the stronger the relationship. And since time, effort, energy, proximity, and whatnots are limited commodities, we can only maintain quality bridges of a certain number. To try expending equally on all bridges would not only be difficult but would also only produce bridges of meager quality.
As he walked me and my best friend home tonight, it has never been clearer to me the necessity of maintaining relationships. Good material does not guarantee protection from corrosion. Screws need to be tightened and the metal polished.
Some relationships are easy and do not demand much. While some require much effort in order to thrive. And with each passing year, it becomes more and more difficult to maintain them. Difficult but not impossible. One thing I have realized growing up is that real relationships are the ones that last despite the distance and silence. They are the bridges that you can cross no matter how long it has been since the last time. They are the ones that welcome you with open arms and a cup of tea ready to listen to your adventures while you were away. They are the ones that feel like coming home and realizing that despite how long it has been and how much things have changed, some things remain the same.
If you have those kinds of bridges, you are lucky. I hope I have found mine. 😊